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End of the Year Reflections, 2023

I am going to answer Tsh Oxenreider's call for reflecting on the past year through simple questions. I intend to continue this tradition every year from now on.

Q1. What was the single best thing that happened this past year?

I found someone whom I really liked.

Q2. What was the single most challenging thing that happened?

The person I really liked questioned my approach to life and relationships. I realized I have been a fool about many things. Navigating and overcoming this was very difficult.

Q3. What was an unexpected joy this past year?

I made some really good friends in the office! We had a lot of impromptu trips together :)

Q4. What was an unexpected obstacle?

We had layoffs at work. One of my friends was let go. We are trying to keep us together by organizing occasional hangouts. But its difficult. I fear it might get more difficult with time.

Q5. Pick three words to describe this past year.

Sadness. Courage. Evolution.

Q6. Pick three words your spouse or a close friend would use to describe your year.


Q7. Pick three words your spouse or a close friend would use to describe their past year.


Q8. What were the best books you read this year?

Anna Karenina

Q9. With whom were your most valuable relationships?

That person, my friends and my mother.

Q10. What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this past year?

I am more accepting of people as they are.

Q11. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally?

I cried after a very long time. And I pulled myself through more than half-an-year of confusion & grief.

Q12. In what way(s) did you grow spiritually?

I changed a bit in-between thinking I needed to be a certain way to appease a certain crowd of people. But I am back to my old self, as far as spirituality is concerned.

Q13. In what way(s) did you grow physically?

I gained 2 kgs in weight. I am able to lift 5 to 10 more kgs in different exercise classes. I partially completed my longest trek so far (9 out of 11 kms in a day).

Q14. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationship with others?

Already said enough about this. See above.

Q15. What was the most enjoyable part of your work (both professionally and at home)?

At work - mentoring people and guiding the platform (our in house data platform) into a direction that we had envisioned at the beginning of the year. At home - writing and brainstorming on all the cool projects that come to my head.

Q16. What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)?

At work - trying to get my juniors to see my point-of-view and motivating them to own their work. At home - preparing my own meals and sticking to a healthy diet. I tend to order food online a lot more these days.

Q17. What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?

Oh, past runs of childhood anime & video games. For some reason I felt like revisiting these things I had experienced before to remember what the young me was like. These lores shaped my values in early life, a lot more than religious gospel.

Q18. What was the best way you used your time this past year?

Spending time with other people. Visiting new places. Talking to many different kinds of people. Being helpful & kind.

Q19. What was the biggest thing you learned this past year?

People can be very different from me in their lifestyle and values and still be good people. Still come together and work on a common goal. Still be my friends.

Q20. Create a phrase or statement that describes this past year for you.

This is the kind of thing I don't like doing. Skip :)